ONE PROFOUND THING I learned about relationships from my mentor, John Pierrakos, MD, was that to create intimacy and promote and maintain long lasting love, you have to take emotional risks. You have to tell your partner your deepest fears, places within you that you feel most insecure or for that matter most cruel and dangerous. You have to admit your failures as well as your successes. Share your sexual fantasies and your non-sexual daydreams. Share the parts of you that you hate and the parts that you love. Share your fears of closeness and your fears of death.
When you do this something is going to change in your primary relationship — blocks will be removed — and you will swim together down the stream of life in a state of advanced love and intimacy.
What is amazing about my book, pictured above, is that is gives you Core Energetics Techniques to transform anger into compassion, forgiveness, understanding and love. So if you want a great technique book add this to your library. Below is an example from the book.
Hitting for Anger Release
Stand facing a mattress piled high with pillows. Bring your body into a semi-squat position. Prepare to swing a racket, plastic bat, or small pillow at the larger pillows. To hit, lift the racket above your head so that you pull your shoulders back and stretch your chest and torso back away from the pillows. Then hit by bringing your arms down toward the pillows – which represent the object of your anger. This movement invites the spine to participate, so that you will experience more power during the downward motion. After you practice this movement and became comfortable with it, move your arms up and down in one swift uninterrupted movement that may continue for several moments. Do not stop between swings as stopping for even a second interrupts the energy flow.
The next step involves vocalizing and pushing sounds out from between your lips as you hit. At the same time as energy releases from the tense muscles in your body, you will free up stuck emotion from your throat. First make sounds and then later include words to address the object of your anger. It’s best to verbalize one word or a short phrase (for example, “die,” “hate,” “get away,”). As you release your authentic, negative voice, your body, thoughts, and feelings can begin to change.
End this exercise with grounding. Stamp your feet and then stand still with knees slightly bent placing all your weight on the ground. Feel the powerful connection to the earth and your power on the earth.
Do this exercise in private, so that you never hurt yourself or anyone else. Use soft pillows, and foam rubber. Why it works is that you release toxic held energy into your life stream so that it can be released in a heathy way, and the adrenaline and cortisol associated with it is no longer stuck in your muscles, poisoning your body.