Here are some meanings of the word surrender.
To trust in one’s life processes.
To accept life situations as they are without trying to change them.
To be in the present moment.
To accept what is not in your control.
To be willing to be responsible, to accept guidance, teaching, pleasure, and to let go.
To experience the divine.
To release illusions.
To accept the truth.
To let go of fear and tension.
To experience all your feelings.
Each of us needs to surrender in our own unique way. Some of us need to surrender to the experience of life, to let go of the feeling that we don’t have the right to be here or to live fully. Others of us need to surrender to our feelings and experience emotion of every variety. Some of us who have cut off from our bodies, treating them as distant tools, need to surrender to physical sensations, even those that are unpleasant or uncomfortable.
Some of us refuse support from others, being unwilling to surrender to the feeling of not having control or feeling helpless. Others of us need to let go, feel sexual, experience pleasure and stop fighting against our sexual urges. Some have to give up the illusion of being swallowed and consumed by the other, give up the fantasy of complete freedom, and accept the limitations of real freedom and real relationship.
Many of us need to surrender to love, to expressing it freely and to opening our hearts. We may also need to surrender to heartbreak, to the experience of rejection, to feeling abandoned, to feeling dependent.
Fear of surrender is like fear of falling. There is no visible support. And we fear falling in love, even though we yearn for it. We fear fusion with another, even though we yearn for it as well. We also fear loss of self, death, falling asleep, the unknown, darkness, and involuntary acts.
Core Energetic Exercise: Practice Falling Backward. This exercise will tell you something about your ability to surrender.
Stand with your back toward a bed and fall backwards. Notice if you turn your head to see how you will fall, fall on your side, let yourself down gingerly, try to guide the fall, hold back for a long time, fall prematurely so you don’t have to experience the fall.
Once you fall, what do you do? Do you get up immediately and go on to the next thing; do you relax; do you experience anger; or do you feel shame?
Email me and let me know how you did with this exercise and how surrender does or does not play a role in your life.